Investing in Relationships

I just received some eh, not that great news.

Investing in RelationshipsI just received some eh, not that great news.

I just received some eh, not that great news.

Essentially I didn’t make it into something I wanted to make it into. I invested a lot of my own time into meeting people from this organization. And that took a lot out of me. Especially to know that all of that time was really for nothing.

So I thought I’d ramble on about how I view some relationships.

also want to clarify, not every aspect of your life should be analyzed to this detail, i just do it sometimes, i live like a normal person i think

The basics of relationships

By no means am I relational expert. I often struggle big time understanding other people. I am really working on that.

I think empathy is one of the most important qualities a human can possess. It really is what makes us human.

I’m constantly working to improve the number of perspectives that I take in on a regular basis.

Anyways, the first principle about relationships is that you should strive to meet all sorts of people — especially people that are un-like you. It’s weird, but it’s one of the best ways you can learn.

The next part about a relationship is the general principle that you should give 3 times as much as you take.

Do I live perfectly in that proportion ? Of course not. I do, though, make an active effort to be helpful to people — generally before I ask for anything.

I struggle forcing relationships. It’s tough. Fabricating a connection is near impossible.

The truth is that people fake it all of the time for whatever reason.

I am really bad at that. Faking relationships or interest.

I wish I were better at it. I think it all comes back to empathy and understanding the other person — everything about them — what makes them tick, their goals, etc.

Anyways, this will be a life lesson, adjustment, whatever you want to call it. I’ve got to keep my head up and keep going forward. And I will, don’t you worry 😉



By jordangonen on September 16, 2016.

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